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The Secret Garden – October

The Secret Garden Meeting is a place for bereaved parents. It is our garden, our secret place to come to. A place to remember our children with those who understand us. It is a place to just be, without worry or fear of not being accepted and to share our hearts.

This meeting we would like to talk about where you are. Where are you at in your grief? Has it been years or just weeks since you lost your baby? How are you feeling? How do you hope you will feel in the future? Have you found any peace at all?

Where am I in my grief – a question that I hear from counselors, blogs, people, tons….the truth is I have no idea. I don’t even know “where to be” with grief. I could say I am in one place, but the next day it might be a different answer. I just try and live each day and take what the day brings while trying to heal as best as I can. Lately I have been experiencing new parts to the grieving process – which will be explained later – and at times it can be me starting the whole process over again. It has only been 9 and 1/2 months so there is still more grieving and healing to go – it will be that way for the rest of my life here on Earth.

Right now, at this present day I have so many mixed emotions (I know some of this isn’t making any sense, but it will soon) and I don’t know which way to feel. In the future I know the grieving will get easier and the heart will heal with scars. I look forward to the day when I can live my life without the fear of losing another child in the womb. I look forward to the day when I can say I am happy and not jealous and mean it – though most of the time I do.

I am at peace with not having Hudson here anymore. I am not a dweller and I know that the reality is he is not here and he will never be here. In being a realist and having a cut and dry way of looking at life maybe that helps aide in peace – that and having a relationship with God. Knowing that this is all a part of His plan gives me the most peace of all.

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2 thoughts on “The Secret Garden – October

  1. I think it must help to be a realist. I think too often I am a dreamer and get caught up in all the what-ifs… I try not to, and lately it has helped so much. I too can relate to being in place one minute and in a completely different place the next. Grief is unpredictable. Thank you for sharing.

    xo

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  2. I have definitely experienced lately the being in one place one day and being in another place the next. When I wrote my post I was feeling pretty good and today is just a load of crap. I want to live without that fear of losing too.

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