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This book reading is for In Faithfulness, He Afflicted Me by Lynnette Kraft. (To visit Lynnette’s blog click here.)
Have you ever been at a loss for words when trying to comfort another? If you’ve endured a loss, in what ways have people shown you they cared?
I have never known what to say when others needed comfort – I still don’t. The only difference now is if I were to say something people would know that I have been there and been through the pain they are feeling. So many times people say “I can’t imagine what you are going through” and it’s true, unless you have been there. I do know that now I don’t worry about saying the right thing because there is not a right thing to say. Just letting others know that I am thinking about them will be enough.
During the past few months there have been 100s of people that have reached out to John and I. I know I have so many wonderful friends out there and I am so blessed. There’s one that I talk to everyday and she is very compassionate towards me in everything she does – recently she found out she is expecting. There are two other friends that found out they were expecting in December and they didn’t tell anyone they were pregnant until after some time because of Hudson. They didn’t want to gloat about their pregnancies after I lost Hudson. I have a sister-in-law that asked me the other day how I would like her to answer other people’s questions about how many nephews she has – she wanted to include Hudson. John and I elected to have donations made in Hudson’s honor to the March of Dimes in lieu of flowers and we are still receiving donations in his honor. Another couple of friends call me often and invite me places knowing that if I say no that they still need to keep including me and sometimes I will say yes. We had food brought, flowers, phone calls, cards, so much done for us. Word traveled fast during that event and so many people were already writing messages on our facebook walls and sending messages. If it weren’t for our friends and family….I don’t even want to think about it.
What fears do you have that you feel you should give to God?
Hmm…well I had two fears – losing a child and an epidural. Both have happened. I was scared of being pregnant because then I would be vulnerable to losing something I loved so deeply. When I was past 12 weeks I was excited, knowing I had passed the time when most miscarriages occur. I was also scared of the epidural because of the chance to be paralyzed; I know crazy, but I was going natural and I will next time. Now I have a fear of going through that heartbreak again and that I will never have any living children. John and I would be the best mom and dad to those lucky children – it’s a fear that we will never have the chance.